3rd Birthday

For her third birthday Kai begged for a Minnie Mouse themed party. But because that wasn’t “appropriate for a boy” the theme was Mickey & friends… but only the boy appropriate friends. She was so disappointed 😞

You see, I already knew. I knew. I hadn’t admitted it to myself yet. I was scared. I was scared because I knew that I knew that I knew that Kai was a girl.

I thank God she is such a strong-willed child.

2 thoughts on “3rd Birthday

  1. My 2-year-old girl was obsessed with tractors so I threw her a tractor-themed birthday party. My boys loved to play princess dress-up with all the accessories when they were little. I didn’t care. It didn’t cause me to doubt their gender identity. I didn’t force them into boxes. I didn’t tell them they couldn’t have the requested birthday party theme because it wasn’t male or female enough in my eyes. My 9-year-old boy who is pretty “typical” in what many other boy interests are, also has his own unique interests (i.e. favorite color is pink, loves cuddling with stuffed animals, is quite sensitive) and I do not think of those things as boy vs. girl interests, but rather as human interests. So many of these things that you seemed so afraid of when Kai was young are simple products of our times and culture. For instance, boys and men used to wear “skirts” and “dresses” (i.e. togas, Roman soldier “skirts,” “modern” dresses for young boys up to about age 5 in the 19th century and before). If a child doesn’t or doesn’t like skirts, it doesn’t say anything about that child other than that child does or doesn’t like skirts. Just 150 years ago, pink was the color for baby boys and blue was the color for baby girls. If our children don’t fit into the our extreme cultural boxes of what is deemed gender-appropriate – the problem is with those boxes and those imposing them. If a child doesn’t conform to our ideas of what is masculine or feminine is, I don’t think we should doubt a child’s biological sex (something that has a myriad of differences that are concrete, like skeletal structure, which diseases a body is more prone to, blood volume, depth perception, muscle build, fat content, age of death, etc), but rather seek to accept their interests as their own and not make them think they have to be the opposite gender in order to enjoy things that often the opposite gender enjoys.


    1. I do not doubt for a second that my daughter is biologically a transgender female. That information does indeed give medical personnel everything g they need to use appropriate data for her.
      There is so much information out there. Perhaps if you’re interested in learning the science of being born transgender you could research. My daughter doesn’t just “like girl things” She knows herself to be a girl. Her brain is female.


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