This is me. 2015. 7 years ago I was preparing to deliver the commencement speech to my graduating class. Before this day I had a 9th grade education, 7 children, and a lifetime of abuse and trauma. When I started college I was the least likely to succeed. My kids and I had been hiding in a homeless shelter for Domestic Violence survivors. I had 4 young children. Two were toddlers. One was still nursing. I know most of y’all had no idea. Well, there’s so much more to my journey. I’ll share more with y’all when I’m ready.
In 2017 we were presented with an award for our part in this civil rights movement. I am most thankful that Kai is learning so early in life what it means to be part of the solution and stand up for herself.
A 2015 memory from my retired Facebook page. I used to post to a small group of friends was than a ten or so)… I hadn’t made the pronoun shift as you can tell, but I believe it’s important to share the whole journey.
This picture of 3 yr old Kai hangs on my bulletin board. As with most photos of Kai before I understood and my heart changed, I couldn’t share it on social media with the rest of the photos from our family photo session. No matter how many filter apps or how much cropping… No matter the masculine clothes or the haircut… as I always say, Kai has always been Kai. I am the one in this photo who transitioned.
Our 2014 family photo shoot: Kai was still being punished for “acting girly”. There were SO MANY photos I didn’t keep or share because I just couldn’t edit the “femininity” out. I am thankful some of the photos were just too cute to delete.
Her outward appearance is a clear reflection of the person she is within the core of her being.
There is a snippet of Christian a song that I often think of when I look through photos of Kai before we understood who she is,
“From the inside out Lord my soul cries out…”
I’ve said this before, I’ll say it again, Kai has always been Kai. I’m the one who needed to transition.