Leelah Alcorn hoped her story would make a difference… it made a difference for Kai. Leelah’s suicide note would run through my mind almost constantly as I continued to try to force Kai to be a boy…
“If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids. Even if you are Christian or are against transgender people don’t ever say that to someone, especially your kid. That won’t do anything but make them hate them self. That’s exactly what it did to me.”
The story of 4 year old Zachary Dutro-Boggess was another one I could not shake. While this baby was killed in 2012, the trial was in the news in 2014. The mom, using a slur, told her boyfriend that she thought Zachary was going to be gay. “He walks and talks like it. Ugh,” the mom wrote. She then asked him to “work on” the boy “big time.” The cute chubby-cheeked toddlers face sticks with me still.
Leelah & Zachary are examples of moms failing their children, they lost their lives because of bigotry… but they helped Kai to have hers by helping her mommy to not fail.
So I will endure the hateful attacks of those who have not fasted, prayed, and studied the Bible, the science, and the psychology of what it means to love unconditionally, what it truly means to not judge, what gender dysphoria is, and what it is not. My child is alive, happy, and loves Jesus. I am at peace and the Lord is pleased.